Female Student Migration: A Brief Opportunity for Freedom from Religio-Philosophical Obedience
Abstract
:1. Introduction
2. Methods
3. Findings
3.1. Women’s Looking Back at the Gender Inequity
Men from there [Vietnam]… always think that going to buy groceries is a women’s job. Especially my husband, who was quite extreme and patriarchal back in Vietnam. If he went to the market, he would be very embarrassed because people would think that he was “scared of his wife.”
Back there, my husband would just come home from work and then go to play sports. I didn’t really like it that way. I hardly knew how many meals he would have at home. … He worked and played sports, so he had very little time for our family.
As for me, after having smiled to nearly 600 guests having meals, I still have my bride’s white on and went to the well to wash the mountain of dishes. My face was still full of make-up, my hair was curled with flowers on … suffering so much. If I did not wash the dishes, my bride’s new reputation would be really bad, as lazy and shameful for my husband’s family.
My daughter mostly slept with my mother or one of our domestic workers. Another worker would just do the housework. So, my husband could pay full attention to [himself].
3.2. Women’s Australian Experiences
Back in Vietnam, his mum took care of our children when they were younger. So, my husband didn’t even know what feeding or taking care of his kids was like. Now, there’s no family here to help us. I also have studying to do and the children to take care of.
I really wanted to study more. But at night, I put my son in bed at 9.00 p.m., he lay there and didn’t sleep until 10:30. I started studying at 11.00. When I had assignments, I didn’t go to bed until 3.00 am. Taking care of my son and studying … No, I can’t just do everything badly. I didn’t have a lot of time. I was so tired and exhausted.
I would like her marrying a Westerner. That’s what I hope for … a culture of sharing and helping each other in the family. The husband and wife are happily living and enjoying the family life together, and with their kids too.
I would tell my husband to, together with our son, clean the house and take care of the garden. I believed that telling them to share housework with me would be better, would be the first step, rather than not having that determination in my thinking at all.
To be honest, I do want a family to be able to share the tasks and have a balance. It’s a way of bonding also, not just the work. If we share tasks, then we understand each other better.
The society here [Australia] respects women more than in our Vietnamese society. Their thinking is different. The men respect the women more and Vietnamese men here look around them. Like my husband, he observes how the other couples take care of each other and that has an influence.
They can see that any men here [Australia} would do the housework, it’s their responsibility and duty. My husband too. He saw it and started getting involved in doing chores, cleaning and looking after our son.
3.3. Women’s Imagining Their Futures
I really want to maintain our lifestyle here, but I’m also worried that everything will just go back to the old ways. I can only hope, but I can’t be sure.
I really want to maintain our lifestyle here, but I’m also worried that everything will just go back to the old ways. I can only hope, but I can’t be sure.
I don’t have much hope. Here, my husband can understand me more. But, going back to Vietnam will make it difficult because it also depends on the family, friends and networks around him. I really don’t have hope. Well, not much.
Our concerns are always there, since we are worried about our daughter being back after 2 years. What would happen?
I would like her marrying a Westerner. That’s what I hope for. I think that he will have a culture of sharing and helping each other in the family. The husband and wife are happily living and enjoying the family life together, and with their kids too.
4. Discussion
5. Conclusions
Author Contributions
Funding
Conflicts of Interest
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Nguyen, K.N.; McLaren, H.J. Female Student Migration: A Brief Opportunity for Freedom from Religio-Philosophical Obedience. Religions 2020, 11, 556. https://doi.org/10.3390/rel11110556
Nguyen KN, McLaren HJ. Female Student Migration: A Brief Opportunity for Freedom from Religio-Philosophical Obedience. Religions. 2020; 11(11):556. https://doi.org/10.3390/rel11110556
Chicago/Turabian StyleNguyen, Kieu Nga, and Helen Jaqueline McLaren. 2020. "Female Student Migration: A Brief Opportunity for Freedom from Religio-Philosophical Obedience" Religions 11, no. 11: 556. https://doi.org/10.3390/rel11110556