4. Discussion
Among the 24 caregivers interviewed in this study, two main psychosocial streams were identified as major challenges for the caregivers: (1) misconceptions associated with eminent guilt feelings towards the child in the assumption of having caused the child the illness through numerous malpractices and (2) misconceptions arising from the horrendous fear of the illness and the stigma attached to it.
According to research, cancers occur through an interaction between genetic and environmental factors [
11]. However, between 75% and 90% of childhood cancers are poorly understood, and the causes are unidentified [
12,
13]. This is the information most caregivers receive at the ward. The caregivers interviewed in this study disclosed a vast frustration and disbelief in regards to the information provided at the hospital of the unknown etiology of their child’s illness. Hence, the caregivers construct and live with the conviction that certain malpractices they are responsible for caused the occurrence of their child’s illness. The three main streams of malpractices addressed by the caregivers include: (1) lack of hygiene and hazardous exposure, (2) unhealthy diet, and (3) stress during pregnancy. These are further re-produced among the caregivers during their stay at the ward and originate to a large extent from deeply rooted misconceptions in the society.
Mindful hygiene and avoidance of hazardous exposure is common advice very eagerly given by physicians as they may have an effect on the immune system and bring about unfavorable complications and prolong the treatment regimen which in turn may have life threatening outcomes. The dilemma for most of these parents in this socioeconomic class is that the main available outlet for their children is usually those places that the child may be exposed to pollution from cars, street garbage, or any sharp items with which the child may come in contact. For many children, the community in the street becomes like a second home, where hours of play are spent as a mean of escaping a home where domestic violence, constant arguments, disputes, or emotional abuse might be happening. Hence, the street is usually a source of entertainment for the children and a getaway from the difficult home situation. Also, seldom are there football pitches or playgrounds available for children to spend their time at, and, where they are available, they are usually in the middle of the city with high levels of pollution from cars. In other words, these caregivers can rarely afford a safe place for their children to be, which brings about additional agony and feelings of guilt and failure. Also, many of these families live in such harsh conditions that they do not have access to clean water or even a safe roof.
The consequences of the difficult socioeconomic situation and the very few resources provided to caregivers can be seen as a consequence of some of the practices they address. Hence, exposure to a hazardous and contaminated environment is evident indoors as well as outdoors for many of these children. Clean water and sewage water are not available resources for millions of people in Egypt, which could bring about various unintentional malpractices. In the cases where water is provided, it is expensive and/or scarce, which is an additional constraint for the caregivers as they need to be aware of their water consumption and hygiene becomes, naturally, the last priority. Also, in many cases, there is a lack of availability of water, and those households shower out in ponds or along the Nile River which is certainly not recommended as these are usually contaminated. Additionally, for many of these children, living in poor, crowded, and improper homes, the only outlet they can afford is outdoor play which has its hazards in an overpopulated and underdeveloped country like Egypt; it is either overpopulated with excessive exposure to carcinogenic automobile fuel, or it can be out in the farms where the use of carcinogenic sprays is a very common practice among farmers.
Moreover, the dietary awareness and, thus, habits among this group is seemingly unbalanced due to financial constraints and lack of awareness to a certain extent. This is an increasing worry for many caregivers during their child’s treatment, as the physicians constantly remind them to look after their child’s dietary habits, make sure the child is well fed, and is restricted from certain foods. This is another vicious cycle the caregivers are finding themselves trapped in as the means for a healthy diet are not easily attained. In addition, the excess intake of carbohydrates (rice and potato as they are cheap/subsidized and available throughout the year) brings about an unbalanced diet with very little portions of protein, vegetables, and fruits; however, it does silence a hungry stomach. Hence, undernourishment, the excess use of affordable yet unhealthy products, unhealthy cooking, such as excessive frying of potato, and the use of unclean water are major challenges for many households in Egypt, whether in urban or rural areas. Sadly, the challenging socioeconomic situation of the caregivers has become an obstacle for the children and seems to put them at risk for developing numerous diseases and stagnating or even prolonging the treatment process of the diagnosed child.
Furthermore, the socially and culturally constructed blame directed towards the mother is evident in this study, as many caregivers/mothers in this study were blamed for causing their child’s illness by being stressed during pregnancy and, therefore, held responsible to some extent. This seems to bring about an increased worry and an excessive feeling of guilt, great disappointment, and self-doubt which asserts the mother’s negative self-image as an inappropriate maternal figure that, through acts of ‘foolishness’ as addressed by several caregivers, have caused the child a fatal disease. This is narrated by many mothers in this study and, sadly, it is not only confirmed and validated by the surrounding network of the caregivers (oftentimes the mother, mother-in-law, and in some instances the husbands), it is also fostered and fed immensely at the ward among the caregivers, consequently becoming a truth as observed on numerous occasions.
All caregivers in the study addressed elevated worry since their child’s diagnosis. The accumulation of fears seems to be never-ending for some caregivers as their tremendous fears are related to their child’s illness, and these fears are clearly extremely challenging for them to contain and acknowledge. The fears and concerns addressed by the caregivers as mentioned above can be understood and analyzed in various ways:
(1) Fear of naming the illness as it may bring a bad omen and infect the person who mentioned it. The stigma and misconception around the illness brings fear to many people and the media has associated the illness with various dramatic and deadly outcomes. This has brought about an immense fear of the illness. Many caregivers do not feel comfortable when the word “cancer” is used and when PI would use it, the immediate answer was “god forbid”, and, hence, the most commonly used term for cancer was “the malicious, evil disease”, which in Arabic is a very negative word to use and entails suffering and evilness. This explains, to some extent, why the caregivers exhibit a horrendous feeling when they receive the diagnosis which could be comparable to receiving a death sentence of one’s child. This phenomenon is addressed in a study by El Malla et al. which found the caregivers refrained from, and deliberately avoided, using the word cancer [
5]. It is also addressed in several other studies on adult cancer patients in this region such as the study in Saudi Arabia where family members desired more information but clearly discouraged disclosure and information provision to the adult patients [
14,
15,
16,
17,
18] or Pakistan where similar patterns were found among adult cancer patients and their family members [
19].
(2) Fear of uncertainty as to whether the illness can be transmitted or not to siblings, peers, neighbors and other family members, and whether it is a heavenly curse or not. It is interesting that none of the caregivers would explicitly address their fear of having the disease transmitted to them as it seemed to be an act of selfishness in this societal context. When PI addressed this issue, the caregiver/s would reply “it is all in the hand of the ‘creator’”. Many caregivers address the stigma they face when, for instance, their neighborhood finds out of their child’s illness and family members distance themselves fearing contagion of the illness or the bad reputation a malignant disease might have in this cultural context. Another important worry addressed is the loss of one’s status in the extended family/neighborhood or tribe which can be related to being “cursed” and thus excluded and deprecated.
Many of the caregivers have a strong belief that their child’s illness is a curse from the creator due to their misbehavior, malpractice of religious rituals, or way of life; while a few other caregivers perceive it as a positive test from the creator. In other words, it was viewed as either a test due to malpractices or a voice of call to ‘return’ to the creator. Interestingly, several caregivers expressed that they did not plan their pregnancy and when they found out about it, they were very upset and wanted to undergo abortion, and they feel this is an explanation for being cursed and having to go through this illness with the child. This mindset has no religious background and is socially and culturally constructed. A study conducted by El Malla et al. addressed the caregiver’s need for information. The study showed an association between information provision and a higher level of trust in health-care professionals [
3]. The study also found an association between the mother’s level of education and the child’s higher survival in a 5-year follow up [
6], which emphasizes the need for education and information provision.
(3) Fear of whether the illness has a genetic disposition, which means that, in the case where the child has a sibling or the mother is expecting or planning on conceiving another child, the siblings could develop the disease. This could mean the loss of a child and also, a repetition of this “everlasting journey”. This fear fosters another concern which is that of being isolated and stigmatized by the extended family members, neighbors, school peers and teachers. Many caregivers ask the oncologists about the probability of having the disease transmitted to siblings and the reply is in line with “it is all in the hands of the creator” which could mean yes or no, although this is not a vague answer for many of the caregivers who expressed their tendency to believe it to mean yes. This uncertainty creates a terrible fear which is fostered and mourned at the ward among the caregivers.
(4) Fear of the side effects of some treatment regimens such as loss of hair, eyebrows, fertility, vision to one or both eyes, hands, or feet. Hair loss is an issue caregivers are concerned with, not only due to the change of appearance the child may experience which can be very difficult, but in some instances, it seems to be more of a problem for the caregiver than the child. The hair loss brings up many questions at school and in the neighborhood and can be problematic if the caregivers have decided not to disclose the child’s illness to their community. Also, for girls in particular, losing one’s hair is similar to a loss of one’s gender identity which is important in the society’s view of how girls should look. The hair loss brings the fear of additional losses, as addressed by many caregivers, in a time of countless losses such as bodily and emotional changes, as addressed by El Malla [
20] (article in press) and Usmani [
2] as well as another study conducted in Egypt by Fawzi et al. where physical appearance was addressed as an obstacle and correlated with lower quality of life for the children [
21].
Additionally, and most importantly, is the significant and irreversible loss of fertility which many caregivers sadly grieve severely. The possibility of such loss brings about societal impediments and impediments for the child’s future; nonetheless, it seems to be more of an issue for the females as among certain families their self-worth is to some extent associated with the ability to conceive; reproduction and family expansion is thought to be the responsibility of the woman. This issue seems to be one of the most critical yet silent fears. The societal and cultural misconceptions become close and too difficult to contain and this where cognitive dissonance is apparent. The caregivers struggle in their minds and thoughts as to whether this is a valid perception, and it becomes an almost impossible struggle to combat. Furthermore, this fear feeds a horrendous thought that the society will not accept one’s child for marriage, even if the child is cured, due to the inability to conceive or a history of carrying a highly heredity gene of cancer.
This chain of immense concerns is fed by the additional assumption that even siblings will not be able to marry as society assumes that cancer is transmitted or is genetically inherited which means that, even if the sibling does not develop the disease, he/she will not be socially accepted for marriage and might be deprecated and stigmatized by society. The concerns shift from the child’s illness to the entire family’s future as well as their worth in society, community, and life as a whole. For the caregivers, the scenarios become gloomier and more difficult to contain, growing in proportion and intensity. As quoted by several caregivers, sadly, it feels like “an everlasting journey”, “a broken chain; unrepairable and therefore invaluable”. The socially constructed view of a human being having value solely for her ability to conceive is very difficult for caregivers to combat as well as tolerate, yet it is the truth for many. Suddenly, one’s child is no longer seen as a member of the tribe but as a “deviant outsider” as addressed by numerous caregivers in this study when the infertility subject was brought up.
(5) Fear of losing the main source of income due to the unexpected expenses of a prolonged treatment regimen. Due to the nature of the illness, many parents have lost their source of income, and some others have lost their jobs as employers do not accept prolonged and unexpected emergency absences. The society does not have a support system to compensate the caregivers’ absences from work, which makes them very fragile to the economic situation the illness brings about. Women in Egypt represent a major working force, and many of the caregivers in our study were very concerned with the economic burden they were experiencing. For instance, PI observed a recurrent delay in following the treatment, and during observation and numerous informal interviews, caregivers would disclose that they were late to treatment due to financial constraints, as well as lack of trust in the treatment regimen, which was also addressed in a study by El Malla et al. [
3]. The financial constrains generate a barrier for many of the caregivers whom were late as some could not leave work or had to stay for additional days fearing the loss of their job due to frequent absences. Also, some could not afford to pay for transportation to the hospital as it could take several hours and require several kinds of transportations (train from Upper Egypt to Cairo may take up to 12–15/20 h and then riding a microbus to the city center and another microbus to the hospital), and these long journeys cost a relatively large sum of money that many families struggle to earn. This barrier is also addressed by Usmani along with numerous barriers [
2]. The economical constrains are also addressed by Fawzi et al. which have shown to correlate to lower quality of life among the children [
21].
(6) Fear of becoming a burden to the family by being absent during long periods of time. Since many caregivers have other children, the extended family becomes an important pillar to uphold the family structure. Again, due to prolonged periods of treatment, the nature of the treatment, and the emergency treatments in-between, many caregiver’s relation with extended family members is put under pressure, and frictions tend to arise as the burden increases. Additionally, some caregivers were concerned that the members of their extended family might renounce the responsibility of the children as the burden grows, which might be devastating for some caregivers whose network will not bear this kind of serious responsibility. Additionally, caregivers are also concerned that family members might not be suitable or appropriate to care for the children, which adds to the frustration and anxiety experienced and brings about guilt feelings towards the children left at home. Several caregivers were exchanging various terrible narratives of suspected physical and emotional abuse and neglect of their children during their absence. In a study conducted by Fawzi et al., a significant lower quality of life was observed in children who spent more than two thirds of their illness at the hospital [
21]. This could indeed relate to the caregiver’s immense challenges at the hospital which then affect the child.
(7) Fear of losing the child. Death is undoubtedly a main concern for many caregivers. This is to some extent due to the high mortality rate in the region; 75% of cancer diagnoses in children result in death [
2]. Additionally, as addressed above, for several caregivers, the death sentence was issued “when the physician uttered the name of the illness” and for others it is “when told that the child might lose fertility as a side effect of the treatment” as quoted by many caregivers. The latter is shocking but not unusual for a society where fertility is seen as part of a human being’s survival, and to a large extent, societal worth, and status. Thus, many caregivers are very concerned and they collectively mourn their own and their children’s losses, and fear the death of their child which is also addressed in a study by Grootenhuis et al. [
22]. This is illustrated through the numerous observations at the ward during the night time when the children are asleep and the caregivers gather in the corridor and collectively share information, the burden, and the stories of sadness, worries, and the fears and concerns of what is yet to come.
Having a child diagnosed with a life-threatening illness in an under-developing country like Egypt is devastating for many caregivers, including the caregivers in our study. The economic situation, the cultural and societal pressure and misconceptions, as well as the illiteracy among our study group is extremely challenging for the caregivers. Also, staying at the hospital for long periods of time and on a frequent basis seems to tear apart the relationship between the caregiver and his/her social network, especially for those living miles away from the hospital. Thus, the caregivers are often alone when they are not with the other caregivers at the ward, making mention that they cannot handle the loneliness and expressing their need to share their thoughts and concerns with other caregivers in their same situation is vital. As a consequence, the loneliness and unreliable sources of information seem to be creating a sense of group affiliation, serving the need of community belonging and the urgency for collective grieving, however, it seems also to be feeding deeply rooted cultural and societal assumptions and misconceptions that have been observed to have very tough consequences on the wellbeing of the caregiver and consequently the child.
Interestingly, though the study addressed in this paper was conducted in 2005, the above-mentioned studies conducted from 2008 to 2013 by El Malla et al. as well as other studies conducted by Fawzy et al. in 2013 [
21], Al-Amri in 2009–2011 [
14,
15,
16], Aljubran in 2010 [
17], and Jawaid in 2010 [
18] all address very similar, if not identical, patterns of thoughts, ideas, and concerns as those addressed in this paper. This might be an indication of the slow progress and sometimes stagnant pace of the psychosocial field of oncology in Egypt and the slow progress of breaking the cultural misconceptions. It also brings forward the need for further studies in this area as well as psycho-educational interventions. A strength in this study is the bilingual competence of the PI which facilitated the collection of the data and the analysis as there was no need for translation and the data was handled within its cultural context without any difficulties in understanding the meaning of the data [
23]. Due to the specific purpose of this paper, the voices of the children and physicians are not present, which is a limitation, nonetheless, a paper in progress [
20] and additional future papers will be provided to fill this gap. Additionally, to ensure the confidentiality and anonymity of the study and in order to be able to conduct the interview with no disruption, the PI had to stay at the ward for long hours and attend many night shifts. This was due to the partial unavailability of the conference room. Thus, some of the interviews were conducted after the regular working hours. Nevertheless, this brought about a more personal relationship between the PI and the informants and the health-care professionals at the ward as it provided the PI with an extensive and intensified insight of the situation and enabled many significant informal dialogues.