How Do Young Women Perceive Adult Responses to the Disclosure of Their Self-Harm and What Is the Impact of That Perception?
Abstract
1. Introduction
2. Materials and Method
2.1. Ethical Considerations
2.2. Participant Recruitment
2.3. Data Collection
2.4. Analytic Approach
3. Results
3.1. Participants
3.2. Thematic Analysis
3.3. The Young Woman’s Needs Were Diminished Through the Response
3.3.1. Self-Harm Was Dismissed
“[My parents] saw it one day, but no intervention came of that, so it just wasn’t spoken about again … which just showed me that it was something to hide and be shameful of and not something that needed any intervention.”(Participant 20)
“And she took me to the hospital and then they basically said that there was nothing that they could do for further treatment. And then later in that week I attempted suicide. … getting told that you are basically not extreme enough, that does result in more of an environment where it’s like, I am valid because I’ve hurt myself enough.”(Participant 17)
3.3.2. Young Women Felt Uncomfortable
“Along with everything else, I found it really hard to explain why, and sometimes being asked why, it’s just kind of, how do you explain that at that time? And that just definitely made me feel uncomfortable.”(Participant 16)
“I think what makes a difference is if people are kind of scared to talk about it, then you just feel uneasy about it. I had a psychologist … and you could see that she was uncomfortable and I was like, oh, I don’t want to talk about it …. it makes you feel like it’s a really bad thing that you can’t even talk about it with clinicians.”(Participant 13)
3.3.3. Young Women Felt Ashamed
“I saw the expression on his [father] face and that was something that was really painful … particularly when I’d become aware of how much it was hurting people around me, guilt when I was really working on trying not to do it.”(Participant 1)
“… my parents would be like, what are you doing? You’re bringing shame to the family. What is this? What are you doing? This is unreasonable. … now I’m sad and I feel embarrassed, and I have shame.”(Participant 5)
“… when you’re just sort of interrogated, you’re very much given the feeling that … it’s a bad thing, or I’m a bad person for having done that. And it kind of shuts off any communication about it because you feel like you’re just going to get in trouble if you tell them.”(Participant 3)
3.4. The Confidant’s Response Was Not Attuned to the Needs of the Young Woman
3.4.1. Needs Were Misunderstood
“… I felt sad and a lot of the time I felt pretty emotionless in a way. So I kind of wanted someone to feel like a strong emotion for me. …, I kind of wanted someone to have some sort of reaction that would help me gauge what I was supposed to be feeling or something like that.”(Participant 15)
“I think a lot of the advice I was getting at the time was distract yourself … And I kind of didn’t feel like I had the capacity to … I kind of felt like it was just all missing a massive part of the sort of thing that I was getting from self-harm.”(Participant 10)
3.4.2. Response Was Unhelpful
“… [Crisis Call Centre] weren’t good in the moment because I know this can’t really be helped, but just being put on hold was not helpful. And a lot of the time the whole message was, if it’s urgent, go to the emergency department. But I’d done that and so that wasn’t something that I wanted to do again. So that wasn’t helpful.”(Participant 4)
“They’ve just turned into reasons to self-harm. … Like with the ice for example, it was, oh, now I can self-harm because I tried it and it didn’t work.”(Participant 24, in response to a clinician suggesting applying ice to the skin as an alternative to self-harm)
3.5. The Confidant’s Response Was Attuned to the Needs of the Young Woman
3.5.1. Young Women Felt Cared For
“They’ve always been really good. They brighten your day up a little bit when you’re feeling down, if they’re just up for a chat and just being nice and it’s always nice to have a doctor who cares. It makes you feel seen and heard a bit more.”(Participant 24)
“I was suicidal, and I told mum that I was feeling that way and that I needed to go to the hospital. … And she took me to the hospital … I’ve also struggled because it’s normalized for me with self-harm. … And so when it’s brought to your attention by someone else … I always found it helpful because I was like, wow, this is something that I should be more aware of in terms of my safety.”(Participant 17)
3.5.2. Struggles Were Acknowledged
“… my GP was really, really good and I think it made me feel a bit more validated. He confirmed, he was like, I’ve never seen you this upset and this distressed before. And so having that external perspective on yes, you are feeling emotions that are a lot stronger than I’ve seen was really helpful.”(Participant 4)
“Having someone [peer support workers] to talk to who had been through mental health struggles and actually understood what I was talking about was really helpful.”(Participant 8)
“… And I was like, okay, so that’s not going to be the reaction every time.”(Participant 10)
4. Discussion
4.1. Limitations and Future Directions
4.2. Implications
5. Conclusions
Supplementary Materials
Author Contributions
Funding
Institutional Review Board Statement
Informed Consent Statement
Data Availability Statement
Acknowledgments
Conflicts of Interest
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| Theme | Code | Description |
|---|---|---|
| The young woman’s needs were diminished through the response | Self-harm was dismissed | Responses which led to the young women feeling as though the adult was minimising, dismissing, or ignoring the self-harm disclosure. |
| Young women felt uncomfortable | Responses led to the young women feeling discomfort or embarrassment or those which resulted in big emotional reactions from the confidant. | |
| Young women felt ashamed | Responses which made the young women feel shame or guilt for engaging in self-harm, which, while often well intentioned, this was distressing for participants. | |
| The confidant’s response was not attuned to the needs of the young woman | Needs were misunderstood | Invalidating responses which made the young women feel as those their self-harm was misunderstood by the adult. |
| Response was unhelpful | Responses which did not feel helpful despite intention to provide help. Typically experienced when engaging with healthcare professionals. | |
| The confidant’s response was attuned to the needs of the young woman | Young women felt cared for | Responses which made the young women feel as though the adult cared for them, typically associated with an action or offer to help. |
| Struggles were acknowledged | Validating and understanding responses which were attuned to the emotional needs of the young person. |
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Rheinberger, D.; Mahony, I.; Hronis, A.; Tang, S.; Christensen, H.; Shand, F.; Whitton, A.; Boydell, K.; Slade, A.; Calear, A.L. How Do Young Women Perceive Adult Responses to the Disclosure of Their Self-Harm and What Is the Impact of That Perception? Int. J. Environ. Res. Public Health 2025, 22, 1879. https://doi.org/10.3390/ijerph22121879
Rheinberger D, Mahony I, Hronis A, Tang S, Christensen H, Shand F, Whitton A, Boydell K, Slade A, Calear AL. How Do Young Women Perceive Adult Responses to the Disclosure of Their Self-Harm and What Is the Impact of That Perception? International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health. 2025; 22(12):1879. https://doi.org/10.3390/ijerph22121879
Chicago/Turabian StyleRheinberger, Demee, Isabel Mahony, Anastasia Hronis, Samantha Tang, Helen Christensen, Fiona Shand, Alexis Whitton, Katherine Boydell, Aimy Slade, and Alison L. Calear. 2025. "How Do Young Women Perceive Adult Responses to the Disclosure of Their Self-Harm and What Is the Impact of That Perception?" International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health 22, no. 12: 1879. https://doi.org/10.3390/ijerph22121879
APA StyleRheinberger, D., Mahony, I., Hronis, A., Tang, S., Christensen, H., Shand, F., Whitton, A., Boydell, K., Slade, A., & Calear, A. L. (2025). How Do Young Women Perceive Adult Responses to the Disclosure of Their Self-Harm and What Is the Impact of That Perception? International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, 22(12), 1879. https://doi.org/10.3390/ijerph22121879

